ਗੁਰਮਤ ਅਤੇ ਵਿਆਹ ਤੋਂ ਪਿਹਲਾ ਪੋਜ਼ ਪਾਜ਼ ਕਰਨੇ । Gurmat and pre-wedding poses

Nowadays, there are lots of publicly shared videos and photographs of Gursikh couples before marriage holding hands, posing with their heads very close together, and one another's hands resting on the other’s shoulder or waist. Pre-wedding shoots are seemingly becoming a common thing for Gursikhs and it seems families are quite comfortable with these type of non-Gurmat poses.

Even wedding or post-wedding photos, are becoming uncomfortable to watch! Gursikhs dressed in Bana (Khalsa dress) sharing photos with the world of them standing in intimate poses is something that gursikhs of previous generatons would never been seen doing. Respected late Jathedaar Bhai Raghbir Singh Ji would instruct the Sangat: “Until you standing before Guru Maharaaj for your Anand Kaaraj, you are brothers and sisters.” 

Guru’s Rehat (code of discipline) requires Gursikhs to treat and behave with everyone, other than their wife/husband, as their father/mother, brother/sister, or son/daughter. Until the Anand Karaj has not been completed, a person cannot treat or behave someone as their wife/husband. 

However, it seems the line of what is and isn’t acceptable in Gurmat has been confused or relaxed by individuals, perhaps due to lack of Sangat (company) with elder Gursikhs, a lack of knowledge of Sikh history and customs, and a lack of awareness of Rehat.

Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj made the Khalsa “Niaaraa” (distinct). The way stand, speak, interact, eat, and do things should be distinct from the ways of the world. If we are behaving and acting like the rest of the world and forgetting the Guru’s Way then we are far from being distinct. Guru Ji says: 

ਜਬ ਲਗ ਖ਼ਾਲਸਾ ਰਹੇ ਨਿਆਰਾ ॥ ਤਬ ਲਗ ਤੇਜ ਕੀਉ ਮੈਂ ਸਾਰਾ ॥ 
ਜਬ ਇਹ ਗਹੈ ਬਿਪਰਨ ਕੀ ਰੀਤ ॥ ਮੈਂ ਨ ਕਰੋਂ ਇਨ ਕੀ ਪ੍ਰਤੀਤ ॥
As long as the Khalsa remains distinct, I will give You my power and support; but the day they begin to follow the ways of the world, I will lose faith in them.
(Patshahi 10, Khalsa Mehima)

Let’s rise to seek Dashmesh Pita Ji’s blessings and be inspired to live and behave like the respected Gursikhs and Shaheeds throughout Sikh history who fully dedicated themselves to living Gurmat in all aspects of their life. Living in Grace, dignity and respect, may Guru Ji’s glory shine through us.