THE MOST IMPORTANT FAIL-SAFE TICK LIST FOR SIKH PARENTS PLANNING TO RAISE CHILDREN.
ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਔਲਾਦ ਪ੍ਰਾਪਤ ਕਰਨ ਦਾ ਪੱਕਾ ਤਰੀਕਾ । A SHORT GUIDE ON HOW TO
GUARANTEE GURSIKH CHILDREN WHO WILL TURN INTO SUCCESSFUL ADULTS – FROM
BEFORE BIRTH TO AFTER CHILDHOOD
ਹਰੇਕ ਦੀ ਇਛਾ ਹੁੰਦੀ ਹੈ ਕਿ ਉਸਦੀ ਔਲਾਦ ਚੰਗੀ ਹੋਵੇ ਪਰ ਇਸ ਕਲਿਜੁਗ ਦੇ ਕਾਲੇ ਦੌਰ ਵਿਚ ਚੰਗੇ ਬਨਣ ਲਈ ਧਾਰਮਕ ਬਨਣਾ ਜ਼ਰੂਰੀ ਹੈ। ਸਾਡੀ ਅਜ ਦੀ ਵੀਡੀਓ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਸੰਤਾਨ ਦੇ ਚਾਹਵਾਨ ਮਾਪਿਆਂ ਦਾ ਮਾਰਗ ਦਰਸ਼ਨ ਕਰਨ ਲਈ ਹੈ ਕਿ ਕਿਵੇਂ ਉਹ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਸੰਤਾਨ ਹਾਸਲ ਕਰ ਸਕਦੇ ਹਨ। ਆਪ ਜੀ ਨੂੰ ਬੇਨਤੀ ਹੈ ਕਿ ਇਹ ਵੀਡੀਓ ਆਪ ਵੀ ਦੇਖੋ ਅਤੇ ਹੋਰਨਾਂ ਨੂੰ ਵੀ ਦਿਖਾਓ।
Every parent wants their children to grow-up into good adults. The
process to achieve this can only be guaranteed if efforts are made by
the parents from before conception to the late childhood years. Without
dedicated efforts from the parents during these important years,
achievement to gift good personalities to the world is uncertain and
left to chance. To raise a child into a GURSIKH adult is the most
wonderful achievement for parents – and it is also the primary purpose
of having offspring. If one is GURSIKH, then all other successes will
follow automatically, including a peaceful, happy and prosperous life.
FAIL-SAFE TICKLIST – Here is a short list of pointers to guarantee children that will grow into successful adults:
1) DOING ARDAAS BEFORE TRYING FOR CHILDREN:
It starts at family planning. After the Anand Kaaraj marriage and
before conception, the parents should always ask the Creator Lord to
send pure souls. This should be from the bottom of one's heart.
Remember, the children will always belong to the Creator Lord – you have
simply volunteered for the task to raise them. The attitude of "I will
bring up my children however I want" is only the voice of ego, because
the only way to raise them is to raise within the laws of righteousness,
with good, morally strong, God-like qualities to gift to the world.
2) KEEPING PURITY OF MIND AND BODY DURING PREGNANCY:
When the child is in the womb, the parents should stay away from
negative environments and all vices. Intimacy between husband and wife should be avoided during pregnancy. When the child is in the womb, it
is developing and is also learning through the activities of the mother.
3) READ GURBANI AND SIKH HISTORY DURING PREGNANCY:
When the mother is carrying the child, she should endeavor to read
as much Gurbani and Sikh history as possible, and take into her mind all
knowledge that is good and true. From here the child's journey of
learning begins (and that journey to learn should never end - hence
"Sikh", a learner).
4) AVOID NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR AND ENVIRONMENTS DURING PREGNANCY:
When expecting, the mother should completely avoid listening to
slander, gossip, particularly vulgar music, television serials/movies
that contain negative/useless information and refrain from being present
at adverse environments such as parties. This undoubtedly has a
negative effect on the mother herself, but it also effects the
developing mind of the unborn child. She should read good factual books,
Sikh history and listen to valuable knowledge and Gurbani Kirtan
instead (whilst trying to understand its meanings too).
5) AVOID TELEVISION AND RADIO DURING PREGNANCY:
The mother of the unborn child should avoid reading magazines and
negative/useless stories/tabloids, and stay away from pointless
radio/television discussion shows that would be of no use to the child's
mind.
6) KEEP IMAGES OF SIKH MARTYRS, HISTORY AND GURBANI AROUND THE HOUSE:
It is the advice of wise people that for the expecting mother, and
also for the child to constantly observe throughout his/her childhood,
that the Sikh home should be decorated with beautiful art depicting
inspirational Sikh history, Shaheed martyrs, saints and Gurbani
Shabad's. Sikhs do not worship pictures and photos, but such pictures
and photos are used as reminders for the parents and learning tools for
the children. Children should be encouraged to ask questions as part of
their learning and mental development process. There is no benefit and
little point in family photos (although they are by no means forbidden
or considered to be anything bad as such), but there is an abundance of
benefit in the former recommendation. What the mother sees in her
environment on a daily basis affects the unborn child. What the born
child sees on a daily basis during childhood certainly does affect
his/her adulthood.
7) PERFORM A SEHAJ PAATH AFTER GIVING BIRTH:
After the birth of the child into the world, preferably a Sehaj Paath
should take place whereby the entire Guru Granth Sahib Ji should be
read in the presence of the new-born baby – small amounts each day at
one’s own reading or listening pace. This should not be as a ceremonial
ritual, but should act as the beginning of the child’s learning process.
8) KEEP BABY IN ROUTINE OF DOING NITNEM:
Parents should give the baby child a bath each day and do the Nitnem
routine with the baby child listening on a daily basis. This will also
help the discipline and routine-keeping learning process.
9) SING GURBANI INSTEAD OF CHILDREN'S RHYMES:
As the child grows, instead of teaching them "Twinkle Twinkle Little
Star" and feeling some sort of pride when the child begins to remember
it and sing it, the parents should instead teach them rhyming Gurbani
verses. That will truly be something for the parents to be proud of.
Slowly, over time, those rhyming Gurbani verses during childhood will
turn into practical knowledge in adulthood.
10) READ SIKH HISTORY STORIES AT BEDTIME:
Without fail, the parents should read the child bedtime stories
every night before bed. These should be stories of the Guru's and of
Sikh history. The child from a young age should be flooded with good
moral based stories and useful knowledge to help his/her brain develop
and thirst for further knowledge. Other impractical rhymes, an overdose
of solely television cartoons and useless fairy-tale bedtime stories
should be avoided to ensure the child is being given a Gursikhi,
moral-based and knowledge-orientated head start in life. The stories
told to the child during these years will never be forgotten throughout
his/her life and will always help in the later adult years. Once the
child is a little older, Sikh history books and other knowledge based
information should be given to the child to read, and the parents should
then only assist the child in his/her reading. This will help the child
form habits to always have a thirst to acquire new information and to
absorb that information fast – and will almost certainly make them into
exemplary students at school later.
11) TEACH YOUR CHILDREN KIRTAN AND GATKA:
Sikh children should be taught Kirtan, Gatka and other sports from a
young age so they become active in extracurricular activities, remain
physically fit and also spiritually nourished.
12) FEED YOUR CHILDREN SPIRITUALISED AND HEALTHY FOOD:
The mother should always read Gurbani or listen to Kirtan when
preparing the household food. She should avoid listening to music whilst
cooking and follow the protocols we learn at the Gurdwara. If eating
out, it is best to avoid restaurants or takeaways that serve dead animal
food (meat) so the young child is not brought into the presence of the
smells and site of such unnatural and unhealthy food. This will help the
child stay accustomed to the healthier and natural human diet – i.e. a
non-meat diet.
13) KEEP YOUR CHILDREN IN GOOD COMPANY:
It's extremely important that the child is kept within good
surroundings, particularly in the younger years. At all costs, parents
should totally avoid taking the child to parties and dance floors where
almost all vices will begin to quickly breed within the child's mind
during the important development years. The child should not be allowed
to interact with other children, or adults, that will have a negative
influence. The company one keeps also has an effect on one’s mentality.
The child should interact with appropriate role models or practising
Sikhs that will have a positive influence towards a Gursikhi Jeevan.
Sometimes parents unknowingly conduct bad, immoral or negative actions,
but they expect their children to be good adults in the future. Children
will always see their parents as inspirational figures to mimic –
children will always try to copy their parents. The actions of the
parents in front of the child will most definitely impact their
adulthood. It is important for parents to become good Sikh role models
for their children – they will closely be watching 'Mum and Dad'. If
parents curse unnecessarily, use bad language, listen to vulgar music,
are ill-mannered etc, no matter what they say to the child, he/she will
follow in those footsteps. If the father drinks alcohol and dances
unconsciously at the parties, why would the son not want to follow in
the same footsteps? If the mother smokes tobacco, why would the daughter
not follow and do the same? Without the right role models, the child’s
future in the current vice-orientated society will only be drugs,
alcohol, non-education, eloping, no care for a career and so forth. If
the parents themselves read Gurbani, only then will the children follow.
If the parents themselves are in the physical outer Sikh form, only
then will the children want to look the same. If the parents themselves
are morally true inside, speak pleasantly and conduct honest actions in
their everyday life, only then will the children have the same
mentality. The parents being practical examples for their children is
absolutely vital. If not, one leaves the fate of their children to
chance.
If you are a Sikh and therefore you believe the raising of good GURSIKH
children is a task given to you by God through the creation, then it is
extremely important that you, as parents, seriously consider the
important responsibility BEFORE VOLUNTEERING to commit to the God-given
task. Help a human being grow into what it was meant to be…
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